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• 愁草依旧

    日色将夕，岂知风变忽起。何处海风呼成音？不似哭声胜似哭声。小女子却道惠东巽寮湾。眼望大海如画，大有只身孤影之感。  晚来一轮皎洁，面朝大海，松枝垂梢，与君一同坐下，促膝谈心,亦听海声一夜频诉苦。茫然不解其意。惟道：对面相逢不相识。见游客别处闲耍，甚是热闹。与君谈笑多时，便有千种情思。亦听君谈些须儿女情事，小女子此生只爱聆听，故无多言半句，半晌不能言语。只觉朦朦胧胧，靠于君肩，胜似小鸟依人。面朝大海，此情最系实。面朝大海，偶感自己竟是脆弱，亦倍感疲惫。凄迷虚渺，恍然如梦。当夜更阑，与几人游戏过后便是席地而卧，海风由远席卷而来。长夜伴海至天明。奈何近日频忆海声？欲成一诗以记之。其实不能。因闻：人人皆说海之胜景。今小女子之愚见且是不足道也。不知是愁草依旧，徒增伤也，或是…… 

  2009-12-04 20:56:18 作者:花间集

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• 女子有才便是美

    回眸一笑百媚生，秋波一动魂飞荡。众观历史，在中国古代，赞美女性的诗赋袅袅娜挪，不绝如缕，书不尽言，诗经《硕人》日：“手如柔荑，肤如凝脂，领如蝤蛴，齿如瓠犀。螓首蛾眉，巧笑倩兮，美目盼兮。”陶渊明愿意变作衣领、裙带、眉黛、枕席、鞋子或蜡烛，以期近美人，李太白也写下了“名花倾城两面相欢，长得君王带笑看”的佳句。更为引人自豪的是，中国数千年美韵中的四颗珍珠：西施、王昭君、貂蝉和杨玉环。人们用沉鱼、落雁、闭月、羞花来形容她们的美。每念及此，心头便涌起一股说不出的疑惑。常自问“何为美丽，美人定是长像出众吗？”按此说来实在令人堪忧？今日之深识美丽从心开始，皆因初识河源日报才女之故。她让我明白美丽的真谛——美丽从心开始。相有心生，美丽从内心的感受中获得。用心去感受她人的美丽，或是自己的美丽，那你必为美人也。话至寒假我在河源日报实习期间，幸识日报才女，其人姓凌，名丽，此女乃河源文化记者，一直在做文化方面报道，岭南文化发祥地。。。年前河源各县多有新闻，因凌记者乃我实习期间的指导老师，两人常呆一处，年后两人还下乡至和平林寨、彭寨、贝墩等多处采访。至今还记得初识才女那日，我一双清明的眼睛肆无忌惮地在凌记者身上睃了一圈，见其人俊秀端庄、气度不凡，因其样子格外动人，时有凝眉作沉思状；时有一副欲辞还羞的模样。自有一番林黛玉风韵。暗地里常以“凌妹妹”呼之。一日，见凌记者走来，一时间我便口快以“凌妹妹”呼之。所幸凌妹妹竟然丝毫没有不悦之色，笑言：小小年纪竟依小卖老。今日之事完全出乎我的意料之外。数日里，常听日报新闻中心部数名记者对我说：“凌记者带你呀？那你太幸运了，可要好好学习人家，她可是琴棋书画样样都会，是我们日报的才女呢！”自思：凌妹妹是河源日报才女？这也只是我略有见闻，但经数日深交，我的心就久久不能平静，凌妹妹那渊博的学识，睿智的淡吐，平易近人的风度都深深吸引着我，今我羡慕不已。对凌记者是“敬”而不“近”。自有一股相见恨晚之感：本人无才，为众所推，以至今日，河源日报实习，幸遇才女。愿肝胆涂地，以报相知之恩。我常读凌记者个人博客里的文章，此人文笔，乃我所识之人少有及者。但凌记者常自谦：拙劣之作，不值一赞。实习的日子里，倒是天天忙得很。但知道自己不虚此来，心中十分坦然。如今河源日报实习期已至，遂归校学习，至今我常联系凌记者，知09年是河源举办2010年世客会筹备年，凌记者更是忙于工作了，唯希望她能注意身体。心中依旧念记凌妹妹一番话：人要耐得住寂寞，多看书。凌妹妹之言是也，今后吾当谨之。行文至此，读者必能明白凌记者称是日报才女之故。凌记者虽不是特别漂亮，却熟读诗书，有一种一般女子所没有的高贵，端庄气质，给大家留下良好的印象，人人皆称“才女”。追求内心的美丽，让自己在身心在没有任何压力的情况下得到放松，使美丽由内而发自外，这样的美丽才会持久。 

  2009-12-04 20:52:54 作者:花间集

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• Wintry Plaints

  Anunseasonablecoldsnapheraldstheearlyarrivalofwinter,drivingdownthetemperatureandbringingalotofrainandstronggustsasitscoldfrontsweepsacrossthevastplainofSouthChina.Suddenlychillhascreptintotheair,leaveshavefallen,andpeopleeverywhereseemtohavebracedthemselvesforatoughandrigorousseasonahead.Forme,however,noneofthiscanbedismissedassimplysignsofanormalturnofseasons,forifyoupayattentionasIdo,youwillnotethatthereismorethanmeetstheeyeandthatmoreoftenthannotwetendtobe,orratherpretendtobe,casualandtriflingtowardsthosethinendsofthewedgethatpopuparounduseveryday.Figurativelyspeaking,theimagesofpeoplewellbundledup,hidingbehindscarvesandbigcoats,shiveringandsighingasifsufferingfromsevereasthma,thesightofdismalandmurkycloudsshroudingthesunandthesky,andthesheerperceptiononmypartthatcoldhassnuffedoutpeople’senthusiasmandrelishindoinganythingthatmayseemtothemirrelevantandinsignificant---alloftheseconstituteasadandbleakpictureoftheunspeakabledeclineofhumanvalues,thosehome-spunvirtuesthatweonceproudlyenshrinedasourcommoncreed.   ThisisnottosaythatIsomehowfindfaultwithoursocietyontrivialgrounds,althoughIamknowntobecynicalandsometimesloudlyproclaimmyselfamisanthrope.Ifeelthepinch,too,justaskeenlyasotherfolksdo,forIfindmyselfatthemomentcoweringatthedesk,leaningtowardsthelaptopscreenandhittinghardonthekeyboard,notwantingtobudgeabit.Itistoinsist,thought,thatforallIknow,adipinthetemperaturehasliterallylaidbarethewayoursocietyfunctionsandtheeaseanduneasewithwhichweinteractwitheachother.Therealityisthatpeoplearoundme,thoseofmyfellowstudents,arebecomingmoreandmorefocusedonthemselves,theirownconcernsandself-interests,totheexclusionofmanyapparentlyperipheralcallsforattention.Aplausibleexplanationforourlackofinterestinmanyseeminglycircumstantialthingsisthatwearebusy,allthemoresosinceweareseniorsandhavetoworryaboutourimmediatefutureaftergraduation:somehavetopreparefortheNationalPostgraduateEntranceExam;othersareeitherpreoccupiedbytheprospectofseekinganicheingovernmentserviceorrapturousoverthevistathatleadsthemtothreadtheirwaysthroughthrongsofeagerapplicantsinajobmarketbeforeeventuallysnugglingdowninacozyofficesomewhereindowntownGuangzhou.Iconcedethattheseofourindividualpursuitsareallwelljustifiedandwell-taken,andthatwhatIfindlamentableisthatmotivationseemstofailmeatatimewhenit’smostneeded,asaresultofwhichIsubconsciouslymagnifytheflawsofindividualismandthedefectsofourutilitariansociety.ButIwouldalsochallengeanyonetodisputethepropositionthatoursocietyasawholehasgoneseriouslyawryfromthepaththatourrightmindsandhonestsentimentsstilldictate.Inmajorcities,especiallyintheforefrontsofsocialcompetitionsuchascollegecampusesandjobfairs,adogmaofindividualismandmaterialismseemssowellentrenchedanddeep-rootedinourelitistcorporateandsocialculture,whichextolssuccessbyanymeansandglorifieshypocriticalmediocrity,thatanyonewhodarestochallengeanyreceivednormofsocialbehaviorandanyexistingruleofthegamewillbelabeledacynicanddisdainedasaself-consequentialbummer.Underallsortsofpretexts,weupholdprivatisminprivateandpreachreciprocityinpublic.WheneverIthinkofthis,Iamfilledwithrighteousindignationandoutrightdisgustwiththosefalse-facedpeoplethatcontinuetoholdswayoverordinarypeople’slivesandactasiftheycandomineeroveruswithouthavingourbestinterestsatheart…   Thislatestmeditationofmine,thecauseofwhichcanbeattributedrightlytothesuddenchangeofweather,leavesmerethinkingaboutthoseawkwardincidentsthathavebecomepartofmycollegeexperiences,andleadsme,unfortunately,toquestionsomehithertounshakablebeliefsandunswervingfriendshipsthatIhavestruckupwithsomeworthypeopleandcherishedatheartovertheyears.ThereuponIbecomeincreasinglysuspiciousofandquerulousabouthowIamtreatedandreceivedbythosepeoplewhomIoncedeemedstalwartfriendsandwhosecompanyandtimelyencouragementhavecarriedmethroughuntoldnumbersofsetbacksandpredicaments.Iamnotforgetfulofthosefavorsthattheyhavedoneme;noramIdoubtfuloftheirreadinessandanxietytoofferhelpshouldIfindmyselfinneedofit.Iassumethen,correctlyIhope,thatIamjusttoofearfulandworriedaboutthepossibilityoflosinganyofmyfriendsonwhomIrestsomuchofmyhopeandreliance.   Afterall,toknowwhatyoucareaboutandprotectitwithallyourmightandmainisablisswhichshouldnotbediscountedbyanymeans.

  2009-12-04 16:56:44 作者:佚名

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• Old Man Complex

  Thiswillprobablybemylastjournalentrypriortopracticeteaching,whichstartstomorrowwhenourteamofstudentteachersisscheduledtoleaveforPaitanMiddleSchool,onamissionthatbearsthenameandcachetofSCAU.Iamproudandpleased,nottosaythrilled,tobeonthatteam,alongwithanother10energeticgirlsandasmartengagingteacher,Mr.Qing.Andformostofthenext30dayspresumablyIamgonnabeawayandoffline,andmaynotgetaroundtowritinganything,whichisstillsomethingIwillhavetoadjustto,forwritingissosoothinganddelectablethatithasliterallybecomepartofmymentalanchorage.Anyway,Iseefitnow,therefore,tosharewithyousomeofmyrecentthoughtsbeforeIdepart,andtoindulgemyselfforonelasttimeinthesheerpleasureofcommuningwithEnglish.Ihavebeendoingalotofsoul-searchingandcontritionlately,partlybecauseitseemstohavesuddenlydawnedonmethatasonebecomesaseniorincollege,hebecomesanoldman,ananachronisminhissurroundings,anoddmanoutamonghisjuniors,asolitaryexileonhiswayout,andaself-importantbigotinhisinsistencyuponwhatheconsiderstobetrueandright.SurelyIfindthispropositiontobetrue,forfigurativelyspeaking,inthewaningtwilightofmycollegelife,asIsooftenexaminemyself,Iseemtoseeinmeacurmudgeon,sorestless,erratic,andexcitablethathequestionseverything,anddoubtseverythinginsofarashisparanoiaandrandomsuspicionwillcarry;andhereuponIhavesomehowgainedabetterandmorecriticalinsightintothenutsandboltsoflifeinearlyadulthoodandlustinlateadolescenceandconsequentlyharbored withinmemoregrief,moreanguish,moregrudge,morefidgetiness,moresobriety,andmoreyearningforpeaceandlovethanever.Allthisstemsfromtheirreconcilabilitybetweenmyindividualityandtheharshrealityasitis.ThenaggingideathatmytimeonthiscampusisquicklyrunningoutbeforeIevenknowhowtoenjoyandmakegooduseofitspeakstothesadtruththatformorethanthreeyearssinceIfirstsetfootonthislandIhavesimplybeengiventoalifestyleofsheerbusiness,arecurringandengrossingspiralofexistencethatcallsfornothingbutasenseofobsession,anautosuggestionthatyouhavesomethingworthyandworthwhiletopursueandthatGodwilling,induecourseoftimeallyoureffortsandpainswillpayoff.Yeah,IhavefullfaithinwhatIhavedone,whatIhavedevotedmyselfto,andwhatIthinkofasthetenetsofbeinganuprightandaspiringman.Andinthisregard,littledoesitmatterwhetherIamultimatelytoberewardedformypersistencyandfortitudeortosimplyenduplikeafoolwhowoefullyrealizesthatheshouldhavebetterutilizedhisGod-allottedlifetime.SoIwilltrytobemeek,andnotwhineaboutthosemight-have-beens. Afterallgoingtocollegeislikehavingabetwithyourfate,withyouthandidealsbeingthestakes:eitheryouloseoryouwin,therebeingnosuchthingas“Iquit!”Thatsaid,Iamstilltryingtobeupbeat,eventhoughmyrightsensesandintuitiontellmethatmywaytoabetterfutureisundoubtedlygonnabeatoughslog,withlittletotriflewithandmuchtobewaryof.Tobehonestwithyou,Imayhaveoftenentertainedsomeunrealistichopesandwhimsovertheyears,buttheyhavebeenwell-taken,ifnotwell-founded;theyhaveremainedtillthisdaytobewhatIconsidertheunalienablerightsandambitionsofafreeman;theyhavestoodthetestoftimeanddistance,ifnotthecheckofreality,andprovedtobestrong;theyhavesustainedmeandseenmethroughtrialsandtribulations,eventhoughtheymaycometonothingintheend…Itistruethatwhatonecanandcannotachieveinlifeisoftenpredeterminedbyhisfate,whichmorethananythingdefineshislife,hissuccessorfailure,andhisultimatedemiseandthattoremainunyieldingindenyingone’sfatecanhardlymakeitanybetter,asshowneverywhereinourlopsidedsociety.Asofold,Ihavecometobelievethatasoneisbornintothisworld,hewillsomedayfindhisplaceinit,whetheritbeofhighstatureornot,andwillhavehisshareofthebountyofGod’sgracesolongashekeepstorighteousness,notstrayingfromthepaththatGodintendsustofollow.Yes,that’strue.Theonlyproblem,however,isthatoneisnoteasilysatisfied,forhehasavarice,andambition,andalwayswantsmorethanhislotentitleshimto.Therefore,foronetobehappyandatpeacewithhimselfandtheworld,heneedstobecontent,orattheveryleasttolearnnottocomplain.Thatshouldbeenough,Ithink,andwhenIcomeback,hopefullyIshallhavesomethingpositivetosayaboutthedecliningdaysofmystudentship.Takecare…

  2009-12-04 16:55:50 作者:佚名

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• 浅析潮州人对母亲的称谓

  浅析潮州人对母亲的称谓 华南师范大学 林晓琳 亲属间的称谓方式可分为叙述制和分类制。潮州人的主体是中原移民，受中原汉民族文化的影响，潮州民间亲属称谓大多实行叙述制。身居潮州，耳闻人们对自家母亲的称呼，并非平常书里所见的“妈妈”或“母亲”，也非洋化的“妈咪”，而是乡土化的潮语叫法，有“阿姆”、“阿姨”、“阿婶”、“阿嫂”、“阿姑”、“阿姐”、“阿妈”、“阿吟”、“阿嬭”，五花八门，几乎所有对女性亲属的称谓词都可以用来称呼母亲，让人不得不感叹潮州话的复杂。潮汕方言是“中国古语保留最多的一种”，被誉为语言的“活化石”，那么存留至今的对母亲的称谓如此之多是否是因为承袭古语？《广雅·释亲》：“姐，母也。”《说文·女部》：“蜀谓母曰姐。”这种蜀地方言在今天已经消失，但是在福建的莆仙戏中，湖南的耒阳方言和江永方言中还存在这样的称谓。大多数潮州人是从福建迁移来的，语言上与福建异中有同。《广韵·马韵》：“姐，羌人呼母。”这里所指的羌人在商周时已遍布今陕西、甘肃、青海、新疆南部和四川西部一带，部分如中原定居。而潮州人在唐朝初年时有直接从中原而下的移民。从以上两点可以看出，潮州人称母为姐，应算是古语的遗风。仅仅依靠这些，只能证明称母亲为“阿姐”是承袭古语，而非全部称谓。我们暂且把视角放在潮州人对姑姑的称谓上。在潮州少数地区，比如“彩塘”“庵埠”，是以“阿娘”称呼姑姑的。“阿娘”在北方普遍用来称谓母亲，而且在古书的记载中，并不存在以“阿娘”称呼姑姑的例子。这里将“姑”称为“娘”，正应了潮州一句熟语“姑疼孙，入古书”，只是为了衬托出姑侄的亲近，而非源于古语。那么，同样的，对母亲的很多称谓是否仅是一种借用？ “偏称现象”就是最好的解释。大部分潮州人在孩子出世时就找人给小孩算命。如果算出父母与孩子的八字不合，他们认为会发生父母克子或子克父母的惨剧，于是设法在称谓上否定这种母子关系，以欺瞒无常，求得平安。这就出现了用“阿姆”“阿姨”“阿妗”“阿婶”“阿嫂”“阿姑”“阿嬭”来称呼母亲的“偏称现象”。偏称的目的是回避八字相克。潮州地处历史上的“南蛮之地”，开发历程较长。长期处于封闭或半封闭状态，外界消息在潮州的更新相对停滞。这里的封建思想根深蒂固，又多以大家族式生活，迷信氛围浓厚。这些现象在经济较落后的农村地区普遍存在，另外，大部分上了年纪的人以及一些没有知识的传统家庭也流行这些称谓。它反映了民间的迷信心理和人们对语言的灵物崇拜，为了避凶求福不惜打破亲属称谓的伦理常规。开埠之后，外界的东西迅速涌入潮州，冲击着传统，更新了思想，加上潮州侨民众多，回归家乡带来世界的新元素，逐渐改变这种偏称现象。因此，解放后出现的称母亲为“阿妈”，和其他称谓词一同组成现时潮州人对母亲的称谓。 注：潮州话中，阿姆即伯母，阿妗即舅妈，阿嬭（《广韵》：“古代楚人呼母为嬭”）据饶宗熙解释是本土居民最早对母亲的称谓词。

  2009-12-03 20:26:25 作者:林晓琳

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• 有多少女人能够握住自己的贞操

    在当今社会，我总听到现在的黄花闺女很难找啊。我想这说明现在的女人太开放还是男人喜欢玩弄女人呢？又多少女人在热恋中，能够握住自己的贞操呢？有许多女孩，在没结婚时，已经不是处女了。这又让有些男生难以接受。甚至有些知道自己的老婆不是处女之后，就更加生气。而且变态摧残她。但也有些男生不在乎她的过去，而跟她在一起。但是说到底，我们谈恋爱需要的感情的交流和性格的了解，而成就将来的结婚。还是谈恋爱就是为了性，而用性来留住一个女人的心。女人在恋爱时，又何曾想过，自己的贞操是多么珍贵。将来结婚时，丈夫和父母对她不是处女，又有怎样的态度。为什么女人在爱河里，就没有明白这些呢？还是女人有一种感性，促使她把贞操献给一个男人。可能我写的也许太片面。但这是我常听到的问题。当男人玩女人的时候，却没有想太多。当结婚的时候，却在乎眼前的女人是否是处女。处女在传统观念中，意味着什么呢？是守妇道吗？还是现在年轻人，思想观念变了，变得让人可怕。还是我们教育不够，年轻人对性的认识不够深，不够透彻呢？

  2009-12-03 17:58:55 作者:柯柔

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