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今日看到一则新闻，觉得有趣，拿出来闲聊一番。初初看到标题--《“隐婚族”悄然流行》，还以为是80后舍不得那份异性撩人的暧昧而耍的一个小花招。细看方知，苦于因结婚生子遭遇职场歧视，隐婚族才刻意隐瞒自己的婚姻状况，在公共场合保持着单身形象。对此，自是“公说公有理婆说婆有理”。一方鄙视此类人，认为隐婚隐去了婚姻的神圣性，另一方大表同情，出于事业金钱的利益，隐婚无可非议。社会学家则表示，长期不在婚姻状态的心理暗示，会减弱当事者的家庭责任感，严重者可引发婚姻危机。众所周知，隐婚族的典型代表便是近期娱乐圈里炒得火热的刘朱两人了。还有一个隐大家想必也不陌生，就是“隐恋”，似乎已成了艺人的专利，其中的辛苦无奈大家心照。说到“隐”，自然就不能不提到QQ或febion或MSN等种种聊天软件体贴地为客户设置的隐身状态。曾有这样一句话“隐身就是隐心”，也曾有人为此现象大书特书了一番。隐身的原因无外乎是不想让别人看到自己在线，不想被人发现的原因又可分几种。讨厌被陌生人搭讪，此为一；不想被人误会老是猫在虚拟世界，此为二；懒得跟人聊Q，此为三。有时候隐身上Q纯粹就是为了接收信息，免得漏了班级通告，同学聚会等。我自己也很享受这种隐身状态，有着“闲看庭前花开花落”的惬意，似极古代的隐士。可是呢，古之隐者可以不食周粟，不闻政事，不管物价，不论职场，可谓之高士吧。俗者如我也，还是乖乖地食人间烟火，扫世俗烟灰去吧。
2009-09-20 15:40:35
作者:何梅
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淘书。蓬头垢面从书山中钻出来，吹吹尘痕缭绕的书，那份心满意足，自是不能与到购书中心，优哉游哉在冷气中触摸新鲜靓丽的书的那份悸动相比。新书的封面要手感有手感，要骨感有骨感，连字也是鲜亮活泼的，宛如钱钟书笔下那被称为“局部的真理”的鲍小姐，使劲诱惑你过去。可恨那价格都太贵，只能是“依依目光，此次不买”。刘亦菲。与其说她灵秀慧雅、飘逸超群，倒不如说是“小龙女”的角色让她有了这份独韵。红颜、白衣、长辫、飘带，飞雪中衣襟凌风，几乎是屏着呼吸看的，以至于忘了要嫉妒这个拥有如此传奇之美的女子。现而今，一袭秀发、一弯浅笑的清丽佳人，却在卷发、短裙的性感造型的侵蚀下逐渐远去。曾轶可。最近她陷入了“抄袭门”，我宁愿和“可爱多”们一起，坚信她是福至心灵，灵感乍现之际不经意将前人所创融入了原创歌曲中。其实大众真的不必如此较真，就像小时候写文章，总喜欢引用名句，同一句用多了，就经常不加双引号了，因为脑瓜里想的是：“这句好熟悉啊，我自己写的吧？！”《天际》应该是献给夏日的轻音乐吧。悠幽的旋律很是恬淡，若隐若现的蝉鸣忽高忽低追随着乐音，给人一种润心润肺的轻淡。如此相比，《狮子座》是稍嫌聒噪了些。但是有那么一个女孩，低眉信手，低吟浅唱，“一个人的时候，不是不想你；一个人的时候，只是怕想你……”续续地说着原本老套的爱情友情。你可以说她唱歌没有调，你可以说她在碎碎念，但是她的歌词呢，难道就一点也没有触到你内心一个软软的角落？发泄感情，亦或抒发情感，有人愿意写出来，有人执拗要去农场偷蔬果，那就不要介意有人喜欢旁若无人地展示她自己的专属音乐。那么纯粹直接的yico和她的歌，似极了《围城》里的唐晓芙，“头发没烫，眉毛不镊，口红不擦，似乎安心遵守天生的限止，不要弥补造化的缺陷。”如今被包装被修饰过的她，如那可恶的书一样，价格是水涨船高，也如那刘亦菲一样，怕是不能保持那份淡淡纯纯不变。能期待音乐还是那样无所顾忌的原生态吗？呜呼哀哉，罢了，罢了！
2009-09-20 15:31:35
作者:何梅
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It’sbeen2weekssincemyreturnfromHuizhou,aplacethatinmywakefulnightsandidlehourscontinuestobetheprimaryoccasionofmyrenewednostalgiaandthedominantsubjectofmydailyreverie.Theimagesandscenes,whichthebarethoughtofthatplacecanevoke,arestillsocompellingthatIcan’thelpbutsuspectthatthat10-dayexpedition,ofwhichIwassohonoredtobeapart,haschangedthetrajectoryofmylifeandmoveditinafundamentallypositivedirection.Muchhasbeensaidaboutthattrip,andalthoughI’mnotwritingtogushoverit,sufficeittosaythatthatparticularexperiencehastaughtmeaninvaluablelesson,onethatIhopetocarryforwardasitslegacybylivingmylifehenceforthwithupwardmobilityandoptimism. Notwithstandingthisnoteofbuoyancy,itisnottosaythatIhavesuddenlybecomesuperiortoalltheworldlytroublesandpettysetbacksthatareincidentaltohumanlife;norisittosuggestthatlifenolongergivescausetopessimisticthoughts orgrievances.Thereisstillmuchtocomplainabout,ifcomplainIshould,andmuchtobesorryfor,ifsorryIchoosetobe.Ironically,therelativelypeacefulandsatisfyinglifestyleinHuizhoumakesitallthemoreunbearablethatIshouldbesowillingtoconfinemyselftosuchanurbanexistenceasischaracteristicofanymetropolis.Isaythis，knowingonlytoowelltheprosandconsoflivinginthecountryandlivingintown,andIdon’tintendtodiminishinanywaythemeritsofurbanexistenceorbelittlethevaluesofthosewhowouldprefersuchalifestyle.Perhapsmypartiality,orifyouwill,myinclinationtowardsruralismhaslesstodowithmyvaluesorpersonalpursuitsthanitdoeswithmysingularlifeexperience,whichhasshapedmycharacter,mymannerofspeakingandwalking,andmostimportantly,myworldview.Moreover,achronicfeelingofrestlessnessandinsecurityovertheyearshascontributedlargelytomyemotionalvulnerability,whichmoreoftenthannotwillleadmetoavertunpleasantcommunicationwithpeoplewhomIdeemcapableofhurtingmyfeelings.Mypsychologicalweaknessandnaturalaversiontosocialinteraction,therefore,seemtobemoreofaresultofmyinferioritycomplex,whicharguablycamefromrepeatedfailures,thanofanythingelse.Giventhismentalcircumstance,it’seasyformetobecynical,tobepessimisticandtoblameothersormyfateforallthemisfortunesanddifficultiesofmylife.Fortunately,thejourneyItooktothatsmallcountycalledHuizhouhasshedsomepositivelightupontheverytruemeaningofhappinessandsimplesatisfaction,whichwasthenbeginningtodawnonme.NowI’velearntthatalthoughlifeisnotobligedtoworkoutasyouhaveplanned,youcansteeritinsuchadirectionasmayenableyoutopursueyourownhappiness,solongasyouworkhardandfocusonwhatyoucandobestandnotgetdistractedbycaprices ortrivialities.I’velearntthatalthoughtherearesomethingsthatarepredeterminedandcannotbechangedbymortalpower,therearemanymorethingsthatarenotandcanbechanged,providedthatwedonotthinktoomuchofourselves,notcryforthemoon,andalwaysremindourselvesofthevaluesandcommitmentsthatwilldefineourlives.Allinall,I’velearnttobegratefulforalltheblessingsthatGodallowsme,andallthehappinessandsuccessIhavehadthatItoooftenforget.God’sgracewillshineuponeverysingleoneofHisblessedsons,Ibelieve,aslongaswebelieveinProvidenceandtrytoliveourlivesasHeintendsusto:thatis,Isuppose,tolivewithathankfulheartfilledwithlove,gratificationandaboveall,gratitude. ThesedaysIhavehadplentyofthingstoworryabout,andthere havebeen timeswhenIfear negativefeelings arecomingovermeagain.ButIknowthatIshouldspendmytimeandenergyonwhatIcandobest,andnotfoolaroundlikeIcouldbesomeonewhoIamnot. Finally,Iwillconcludemysoliloquywithaclosingthoughtonmypostgraduateexamnextyear. Nowadays it’shardforpeopleto beginaconversationwithmewithoutaskinghowthingsaregoingwithmypreparation.TheyofcourseassumethatIshouldbeuptomyearsinpreparationnow,givenmyobviousweaknessinJapaneseandPolitics.Inresponse,Iwouldusuallysmileandshrugandsayinthemostcasualtone, “Well,it’sstillallaboutEnglishatthispoint,’costhat’swhatIlove,andwhatIcandobest!”
2009-09-20 09:49:06
作者:Timothy KOE
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IhappenedtoreadaQQjournaltonight,byoneofmystudentsinHuidong,writteninsoplainandplaintivealanguagethatIassumeonemusthaveaheartofsteelnottobetouched.Thisshortessayofgrievance,whichIsubsequentlypostedonmyQ-zone,goestotheeffectthatshe,thisstudentofmine---let’ssayAnnasanalias---feelstroubledbecausewithherbirthdayapproaching,sheisafraidthatshemighthavetospendherbirthdayinabsolutesolitudethisyear,asshehasdonealltheseyearsfromcradle,withoutthecompanyoffriends,andworststill,withoutanyofthemknowingit,letalonecomplimentsorgifts.Sheproceedstorelatetwoofhermostdishearteningbirthdayexperiences:oneisabouthergoingtoabirthdayparty,heldnotforher,butforafriendofherswhohappenstoshareherbirthdate,andhowhavinghadtowitnessallthehullabaloounfoldingbeforeher,shewasforcedtofeeljealousbecauseshewassonearyetsoremovedfromthejoyandhappinessthatshewassupposedtopartakein.Theotherisaboutheroncepresumingtoaskherfriendsforbirthdaybestwishes,whichasyoumayguess,nevercame;afterwards,whenattheheightofherdisappointmentsheaskedherfriendswhy,shegotanotherblow:theyhadsentallthebestwishestotheguywhosharesherbirthdate,andnonetoher,becausetheythoughtitwasonlyhisbirthday…Sheendshercomplaintwithapathetictouchthatsuggeststhatmaybeherbirthdayhasbeengivenaway,isnotthere,andisnowheretobefound,oratleastnobodygivesadarnaboutit. Attheriskofbeingaccusedofmakingamountainoutofamolehill,Iwillarguethatthislatestevidenceofhowoursociety,oursocialnetwork,andourso-calledfriendshipswithothersaretiltedunfairlytowardstheparticularlychosenfew,inneglectoftheequallydeservingmany,issomethingthatshouldnotonlyprovokemylongpent-upindignationaboutsocialinjusticeandunfairness,but moreimportantly,stirtheconscienceofeachandeveryoneofus,becauseyoucanfeelwithyourownheartthatthereissomethingfundamentallywrongandunacceptableintheindifferenceofAnn’sfriends,somethingsoinexcusablethatthefactthattheywerejustkidsthendoesn’tmakeitanylessso.IsupposeAnnisasensible,considerateandsoulfulgirlwhocaresmoreaboutothersthanshedoesherself,andthatshewillrememberthebirthdaysofthosewhomsheconsidersfriends,won"tshe? Butwhattheheckcanbethereasonforthoseofherfriendsnottorememberhers??ThisissovexinglyunfairandintolerablethatIwouldchallengeanyonetomakeacounterargument.Apparently,wecansayhypothetically,butnotwithoutsomedegreeofcertainty,thatAnn,beingdewy-eyedandsimplistic,isapttobetakeninandtakenadvantageof,asallsimple-mindedfolksare,byanyoneinwhomshemayconfide,andwhatwecanhardlydisputeisthatthosewhoaremostlikelytohurtherfeelingsarethoseofherso-called“friends”,whoconsciouslyornot,willsometimesdegradethemselveswithgrossapathy,excessiveselfishness,and outrightoblivion,ifnotwithgreedandimposition,whicharethecommontraitsofapettyself-servingingrateandadouble-faceddouble-tonguedhypocrite.Hersimpledesireforashareofthehappinessandmerrimentthatfriendshipsupposedlyengendersislegitimateandwell-grounded,forshehasprovenworthyofit,butsadly,thiswishisnotalwaysviableinthecrueltyandremotenessofoursocietyandthemajorityofthosewhoconstituteit…Inshort,shesimplyfallsavictimtowhatsomepeoplecallthecrimeofcredulity---inthiscase,friendshipisculpable---notknowingthatasistrueofallthingsunderthesun, friendshipcansometimesbefalse,ifnotmostofthetime. IfearI’mgoingalittletoofar,andhenceIshallstophere.
2009-09-20 09:47:02
作者:Timothy KOE
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Isleptadreamfulsleep,andwhenIwokeup,Ifeltjusttoobad:somelingeringvestigeofacoldhadnotyetgoneaway;mybodyfeltallbutnumbfromweariness;andmymoodwasexpectedlybad.Flippingopenthelidofmycellphone,Isawitwasalready9o’clock.“Gosh!Ioversleptagain!”Iheavedadeepsighofregretandtossedaboutinbeduneasily,tryingtoshakeoffmydepression.Thenlyingtherestifflylikesomeonewhoisdyingandneedsspecialcare,Iturnedoverallthestuffthathappenedtocrossmymindandkeptaskingquestionsthatkeptbafflingme.Finallywithanotherdeepsigh,Imusteredallmywillpowerandgotup.Afterdoingalltheformalitiesandnecessitiesthatamanissupposedtodoaftergettingup,Isatdownbeforethecomputerscreenandmechanicallypressedthebuttontobootit.ItwasonlythenightbeforethatIhadthoughtofgettingupearlythenextdaytorejoinmycompanionsingoingtothestudyhall,butsadlyIhadjustletmyselfdownagain…BeforeIcouldthinkanyfurther,IhadeagerlyloggedonwithmyQQtocheckmypersonalinfocentre,clickinghereandtheretoseewhohadwrittenwhat,whohadchangedhisorherQQautograph,whohadaddednewtouchestohisorherQQmood,andjustasimportantly,whohadcometomyzone.Ifeltanaddictivefascination,aninexpressibleraptureaboutsomethingIalwaysconsiderconsuming,whenIwasdoingallthisandwhenIlatermademyroundsofthosezonesthatpromisedsomeinterestandfun.Allthisdone,Iwasnotdone,yet:seeingthatfewpeoplewereonline,Ikeptscrollingupanddownthelistofallmyfriendsinanaimlessandlistlessmannerthatdefiedsensiblelogics.Thesilenceandsolitudeirkedme,andtheboredomsaddenedmeinsopoignantawaythatIjustfeltIgottadosomething,somethingthatkeptmefromthinkingorIwouldfallintothenegativespiralofpessimismagain.EventuallyIsettleddownandcontentedmyselfwithwatchingLateShowwithDavidLettermanfortherestofthemorning.It’salwayssomuchfunwatchingit.Atnoon,Ihadtomakeshiftwithdiningalone.Well,Ilikethat,althoughIwouldpreferthecompanyofsomepeople,andIguessnooneonthiscampuscanbemoreaccustomedtodiningalonethanme,suchaconfirmedloner.SowiththejoythatIhadderivedfromwatchingthelateshow,Itriedtoliftupmyspirits,relivingthejokesthatDavehadmade,chucklingasIpreparedtogoout.However,therewerealwayssoberingdowners.Ilookedinthemirror,anditcametomindthatIhadn’twashedmyhairthenightbefore,myfacehadn’tbeenshavedfordaysandIlookedjustaswearyandmelancholyasIfeltinward.Isighedagain,likeadesperateprisoner,puttingonmyslacksandslippersinsteadofshoesandsox,andwentoutwithoutcombingmyhairorchangingmyT-shirt,knowingthatIhadnoonetopleaseandnoonetocarethatmuchabout. Notwantingtohearunpleasantdiscourse,andcertainlynotwantingtowastetime,ItookmyMP3withmeandstartedlisteningtoEnglish.MyMP3,unlikeothers’,containsnosongsandnomusicwhatsoever,butEnglishspeechesandnewsbroadcasts.SoasImademywaytothecanteen,IheardObama’svoiceringinginmyearsasifhewererighttherespeakingtome:“Thankyousomuch.Goodafternoon.IamhonoredtobeinthetimelesscityofCairoandtobehostedbytworemarkableinstitutions.Foroverathousandyears…”Istoodinlinetobuymymealticket,lookingimpatientlyandindifferentlyatthosebeforeme.Ifelthollowinsideanddidn’tknowwhyIwasdoingwhatIwasdoing.Mybodyfeltlikeitwasnotdictatedtobymywill,butbysomeinvisiblehandthatrunsmybodythroughthedailyroutinesofmyboringlife,devoidofpurejoybutrifewithtroublingsorrows,withwhichIhavetoconstantlycontend.Iutteredanothersighofdisappointment,themeresightofstrangers,especiallymen,fillingmewithcontemptanddisgust…Lateron,sittingdowntotakemylunch,Ihadtomakesurethattherewasnobodyaroundwhocouldrecognizemeforfearthatmysloppy,down-heartedappearancetodayshouldshockhim.AsImunchedonmylunch,IkeptmyattentionfocusedonwhatIwaslisteningto:“Solettherebenodoubt:IslamisapartofAmerica,andIbelievethatAmericaholdswithinherthetruththatregardlessofrace,religionorstationinlife,allofussharecommonaspirations:toliveinpeaceandsecurity…”Isattherequietly,almostlosttothesurroundingworld,likeaghost,astatuethatdespairsofeverything,paysnoattention,asksnoneandcaresnotabit.Backinmydormroom,Ifoundmyroommatesstilldeepinsleep,andcouldn’thelpbutwonderhowsomepeoplecoulddowithonlyonemealadaywhilemostoftheothersneedthree.Isatdown,andthinkingofmygraduationtrip,couldn’tinhibitanothersighofdisappointment.“Letitgohang,”Ithoughttomyself,“It’ssopoorlyplannedthatyoujustcan’tunderstandthewaysomepeoplethink.Itturnsmeoff!Ihavetoreconsidermyoptions.” WhileIwassodistracted,thegreatspeechwenton,“Thishistoryiswellknown.Ratherthanremaintrappedinthepast,I’vemadeitcleartoIran’sleadersandpeoplethatmycountryispreparedtomoveforward…”
2009-09-19 17:33:58
作者:Timothy KOE
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Aspartofanefforttofightpseudo-friendshipandpseudo-mutualism,Inowdeclarethatasoftoday,accesstothisQ-zoneofminewillbeindefinitelydeniedtothosewhoserelationshipswithmeInowseriouslycallinquestion.Thesepeople includesomeofmyclassmates,someofmyex-classmates,someofmyself-proclaimedfriends,andsomeofmynominalfriendswhoarealwaysreadytoaskforhelp,butneversothoughtfulastoreciprocate.I’msickandtiredofthempreyingonmysimple-mindedadherencetothefriendshipsthatIthoughtwerewell-establishedandwellpastdoubtbetweenus. Again,Icouldn’tbemoreserious,havingbeenrepeatedlydisillusionedanddisabusedbythedisappointingwordsandactionsofsomepeopleonwhomIoncebestowedsomuchaffectionandexertion. Iftheworstshouldcometotheworst,andifeventskeepgoingbeyondmymortalcontrol,thenfurthermeasures,includingbreakingofftheentirebondofwhatevertenuousfriendshipandacquaintanceshipmayexist,willbeseriouslyconsideredasanoptionorasthelastresorttoprotectmyvulnerablefeelingsfromtheself-servingegosofsomeunworthypeople. Herewithletthisoverallmessagebeheard:Iamnobody"sfoolandIamangryaboutbeingtakenadvantageof!!!
2009-09-19 16:05:16
作者:Timothy KOE
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